In a wild, captive wolf that is not socialized to man, approach will elicit flight and, if the wolf is cornered, a defensive reaction may be triggered, which is termed the critical-distance reaction. —Michael W. Fox, The Soul of the Wolf, 1980
It seems we have very little awareness of how important the role of the female alpha is in our society. With all of our social conditioning and being pigeonholed into stereotypical gender roles, we seem to have forgotten how much we actually rely on female alphas to maintain social order. Female alphas bring social ease to a group; They are the initiators, they are the conversationalists, they tell jokes, they make introductions, they smooth over disagreements and take charge. Female alphas enjoy social conducting, being the leader of a group or, generally speaking, being the center of attention.
Female alphas operate on somewhat of a spectrum and the more socially adept and self-aware alphas know when and how to step back and let others take the lead. Some women are only social alphas around specific groups of friends. If you explain the female alpha phenomenon to a woman, she will most likely be able to tell you her ‘degree’ of social alpha-ness and explain the situations in which she is most likely to “bow out” and let others take the lead. Some women only like being female alphas in the privacy of their own home or within a certain relationship (though any relationship that is unbalanced or that requires a female alpha to act not in accordance with her own “nature” isn’t likely to last for long).
There are many names for the female alpha, with both positive and negative connotations. The alpha females are the connectors, the leaders, the “Chatty Cathy”, the Queen Bee, the life of the party, the social butterflies as well as the control freaks, the bitches and the headstrong and the “difficult to get along with”.
From a very young age, females are taught how to play nice, get along and keep the peace. As we grow into women, we are taught that we are to tone down our more dominant (masculine) behaviors, lest we want to frighten all of the eligible bachelors away and waste our days away into spinsterhood. We are taught to be self-sacrificial and submissive within our relationships as an act of passive submission (we roll over and take it because that’s what a female is supposed do) rather than active submission (we submit to no one unless we want to).
We are taught to repress our dominant, assertive and even aggressive tendencies to become more passive, docile, “ladylike” creatures. In this way, some naturally alpha females are effectively brainwashed from a young age to suppress natural tendencies and submit for the wrong reasons, in the wrong ways, to the wrong people. There is a growing collective of “reformed” female alphas who were once “brainwashed” by society (those who have been effectively indoctrinated into the system). The female alphas indoctrinated and imprisoned by false beliefs cannot remain so for long and will eventually fight their way out of captivity to reclaim what is rightfully theirs: their identity, their strength, their independence, their birthright.
Female alphas know what they want and they go after it; They are in charge of their own life trajectories and don’t wait for someone else to fulfill some childhood-romance fantasy about being swept off of their feet. Female alphas are sexy, independent, assertive, they speak their truth (and live it), and they make no apologies for who they are, where they’ve been or what they want.
It has been long said that alpha males and alpha females usually do not get along because each will try to establish control thus, creating conflict. This fear-based mentality is part of what contributes to that early-age indoctrination into a broken societal faction that promotes misogyny and sexism (among other things). However, the right combination of male and female alphas within a couple can create a bond unlike no other with animalistic attraction, a deep intellectual connection and a partnership beyond even the wildest of dreams.
This alpha female has heard her wakeup call. Now, get ready for her battle cry.
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Wolfpack Hierarchy: Some Quick and Dirty Factoids Gleaned from The Interwebs
Most, if not all, studies on wolf pack hierarchical ordering have been conducted on packs of wolves in captivity. Wolf behavior in the wild seems to not follow the same hierarchical patterning but some similar behavioral characteristics among more dominant and submissive wolves have been noted.
Wolves prefer psychological warfare to physical confrontations, meaning that high-ranking status is based more on personality or attitude than on size or physical strength.
An alpha couple typically leads the pack and consists of an alpha male and an alpha female. The alpha couple is typically monogamous (with some exceptions).
A dominant Alpha female that has been in captivity for any length of time may choose more than one partner with which to mate but 100% of alpha females mate with an alpha male.
Wolves are efficient and purposeful communicators and howl for several reasons. Howling helps pack members keep in touch, allowing them to effectively communicate in densely forested areas or over great distances.
Howling can serve as a territorial declaration, as portrayed by a dominant wolf’s tendency to respond to a “rival” in an area that the wolf considers its own. This behavior is also stimulated when a pack has something to protect, such as a fresh kill.
Loss of rank within the captive wolf pack can happen gradually or suddenly. An older wolf may simply choose to submit when an ambitious challenger presents itself, yielding its position without a fight. Or, the challenged individual may choose to fight back, with varying degrees of intensity.
While the majority of wolf aggression is non-damaging and ritualized, a high-stakes fight can easily result in injury for either or both parties. The loser of such a confrontation is frequently chased away from the pack or, rarely, may be killed as other aggressive wolves contribute to the insurgency. This kind of dominance encounter is more common in the winter months, when mating occurs.
Wolves also howl for communal reasons. That is, wolves may purposefully and intentionally communicate with one another to strengthen their social bonds to one another and the group.
Wolves howling as a group do so at varying tones and pitches, which tends to prevent a listener from accurately estimating the number of wolves involved. This concealment of numbers makes a listening rival pack wary of what action to take. For example, confrontation could mean bad news if the rival pack gravely underestimates the howling pack’s numbers.
Thus, highly evolved wolf packs tend to howl with great care.
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