Idealization, Devaluation and Ambivalence

An deep-rooted fear of separation leads to withholding, uncertainty and lack of presence in relationships. The result is a feeling of ambivalence or indecision about the “other” that can lead to anxiety and a sense of deprivation if not resolved.

Blindsided: The Players in the White T-Shirts

When we catch a glimpse of a person that isn’t in alignment with who we think that person is, or who we’ve convinced ourselves they are to us, we make adjustments to our perception of their behavior and our understanding of said person’s character until they are in harmony once again. This is a form of denial that, in its own rite, is likely a subconscious attempt at self-preservation in order to avoid a painful truth.

The Insidious Nature of Emotional Abuse

If something feels off, why, then do people remain in relationships that are unfulfilling, crazy-making and potentially (most likely) destructive? Because we all want love. Sometimes, we want love so badly we question our own perceptions and that is enough to allow the insidious nature of emotional abuse to take hold of us.

Tell Me What You See #4

I just doodled this last night so it’s a work-in-progress (aren’t they all?) but please tell me what you see…

The Art of Discernment and the Beauty of Bad Decision-Making

We have all made bad decisions. From the most seemingly insignificant decisions (Do I turn left or right?) to the life-altering ones (Should I stay or should I go?); the decisions we make shape our lives and the lives of those around us. Now, let’s be clear: when it comes down to brass tacks, there really are…