Idealization, Devaluation and Ambivalence

An deep-rooted fear of separation leads to withholding, uncertainty and lack of presence in relationships. The result is a feeling of ambivalence or indecision about the “other” that can lead to anxiety and a sense of deprivation if not resolved.

The Wolfpack Mentality and the Rise of the Alpha Female

The female alphas indoctrinated and imprisoned by false beliefs cannot remain so for long and will eventually fight their way out of captivity to reclaim what is rightfully theirs: their identity, their strength, their independence, their birthright.

Blindsided: The Players in the White T-Shirts

When we catch a glimpse of a person that isn’t in alignment with who we think that person is, or who we’ve convinced ourselves they are to us, we make adjustments to our perception of their behavior and our understanding of said person’s character until they are in harmony once again. This is a form of denial that, in its own rite, is likely a subconscious attempt at self-preservation in order to avoid a painful truth.

The Insidious Nature of Emotional Abuse

If something feels off, why, then do people remain in relationships that are unfulfilling, crazy-making and potentially (most likely) destructive? Because we all want love. Sometimes, we want love so badly we question our own perceptions and that is enough to allow the insidious nature of emotional abuse to take hold of us.

Narcissistic Abuse and Cognitive Dissonance

This blog post is a loosely edited version of an article I would often refer to when working with victims of domestic violence, specifically those who had endured and languished in emotionally abusive relationships. In short, the article examines the conceptĀ of cognitive dissonance as it presents in cases of emotional abuse with exploitative narcissists. Essentially,…

The Greatest Thing I’ve Never Written

We seek to steady ourselves with egocentric pursuits in a futile effort to separate from the herd and disappear into it simultaneously…we expand outwardly and separately away from one another, in a constant state of uncontrollable motion and eternal chaos, grasping for one another in the darkness as we furtively conceal ourselves behind masks of guilt, ego and shame. What is it that has you running circles inside your head? Do you even know anymore?